Posted on: 11/20/23 04:57PM
It's a very complicated topic and one that I do wish I could answer sufficiently, but I cannot. The pessimistic and rude part of me wants to leap out and say "eww, just don't be a fucking sicko creep lulz" but the empathetic and optimistic side of me understands that the human mind can't always control what it's attracted to. And that your fetishes don't always necessarily determine who you are as a person.
I sympathize that it can be a terrifying and chilling feeling when you feel you're looking down a dark path, and realizing there aren't many outlets to pull yourself back from it. I despise rape fetish drawings (especially ones with crying) and do have a little prejudice towards people who make rape fetish comments, but sometimes I wonder if that was my fetish. Then the shoe would be on the other foot. I'd be on the side of which I was condemning.
The most important thing is ensuring that none of it slips into the real world in any significant way. As in, you don't see yourself having serious thoughts of raping an attractive woman when you're alone with her. In that case, you must stop what you're doing and immediately seek professional mental help, because every human should feel a responsibility to not harm others in a traumatic, scarring, way.
I find doing healthy activities can certainly help put your mind at ease. Exercise, socialize, learn something useful, meditate, etc. Distract yourself onto non-harmful things. It sounds cliche, but for me at least, it does work. I've noticed my brain doesn't think nearly as much about porn and sexual fetishism when I'm actually doing some of those things for enough time.
And trust me, I know exactly what it's like to have a taboo fetish. I have a very complicated relationship with oppai lolis and teenaged shortstacks. The first time I masturbated and ejaculated to what was clearly an...... ahem.... young girl with big breasts and a big butt, I felt utterly disgusted in myself, depressed, and terrified that I would transform into some sort of sexual predator when I got into my 20's. Now I look back and laugh at it. Now I just tell myself it is completely biologically normal for heterosexual men to be attracted to cute-faced girls with big breasts, wide hips, and a big butt.
Just don't commit a crime, publicly endorse it to any dangerous individuals, get publicly cancelled online, or get the police involved, and you're good to go.