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confidencemanharoldhill - Group: Member - Total Posts: 90
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Tops&Bottoms, Doms&Subs: What lessons would you want compatible individuals to take away from porn to employ in the bedroom?
Posted on: 04/02/24 06:23PM

Bottoms & Subs: what could your tops & doms learn from some of the fantasies on display here to really get you going?
Same question inverted for the complimentary types. Link to examples from here, & explain your thinking.



ThePigeon - Group: Member - Total Posts: 5500
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Posted on: 04/02/24 06:26PM

Holy macaroni.



confidencemanharoldhill - Group: Member - Total Posts: 90
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Posted on: 04/02/24 06:36PM

ThePigeon said:
Holy macaroni.

look fam, lemme tap this site for interesting takes, alright?
you'd think there'd be some here, not just two straight dudes that respond to every post of mine and dominate the conversations...



ThePigeon - Group: Member - Total Posts: 5500
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Posted on: 04/02/24 06:46PM

confidencemanharoldhill said:
not just two straight dudes that respond to every post of mine and dominate the conversations...

Sorry.



Menace5 - Group: Member - Total Posts: 60
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Posted on: 04/02/24 06:55PM

Porn should not be someone's first reference for how fetish/kinkplay works. It might give an idea of what you'd like, but proper research into safety is most important.

Having a full list of kinks and fetishes means little if the dom doesn't know how to employ them safely, or if neither party knows or uses safewords or other indicators a scene needs to stop/pause.



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Posted on: 04/02/24 07:06PM

Menace5 said:
Porn should not be someone's first reference for how fetish/kinkplay works. It might give an idea of what you'd like, but proper research into safety is most important.

Having a full list of kinks and fetishes means little if the dom doesn't know how to employ them safely, or if neither party knows or uses safewords or other indicators a scene needs to stop/pause.

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Absolutely. Fantasy is no sufficient preparation for reality. However, my question was about what people *could* learn from fantasy. I'm talking hot dirty talk, exciting scenarios, erotic positions, etc. Given that you hypothetically have a partner as kinky as you, what would you want the other to incorporate from these kinds of fantasies, and more importantly in what ways is it practical to do so?



Menace5 - Group: Member - Total Posts: 60
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Posted on: 04/02/24 10:27PM

confidencemanharoldhill said:

+99999999999
Absolutely. Fantasy is no sufficient preparation for reality. However, my question was about what people *could* learn from fantasy. I'm talking hot dirty talk, exciting scenarios, erotic positions, etc. Given that you hypothetically have a partner as kinky as you, what would you want the other to incorporate from these kinds of fantasies, and more importantly in what ways is it practical to do so?


Like I said, you can get an idea of what you'd like/what sounds fun from porn. Proper research comes second. There's still some spaces left to talk or read about other people's lived experiences with kink, which helps give a better idea if you'd be into it or not.

Used to think I'd like 24/7 power exchange, read some old livejournals (RIP) from doms and subs who lived it, realized it wouldn't be for me. Did realize I was into spanking from those same journals though.

I don't do anything irl any more, but back when I did: I never really used a specific example for anything, except rope ties/shibari that looked interesting, if that's what you mean. Moreso I would have a general idea of what I'd want from stuff I'd seen or read, then talk it over with my partner to make it work with our respective kinks. If something wasn't working, that's what a safeword is for, and we could stop and either try something else, leave it for another day, or just put it on the hard no list.


Edit: I should say "not doing anything irl for a while", sounds less final



supremz - Group: Member - Total Posts: 1588
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Posted on: 04/02/24 11:27PM

That I’m a into it, for one. No one IRL has a clue that I’m into femdom :/



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